Unexpected Curveballs – It’s a Girl

It has been a few weeks since I’ve written on our adoption blog. Let me tell you, the past couple of weeks have been an emotional roller coaster. I know Jeff wrote about the roller coaster we have been on. But our roller coaster has gotten so crazy that in some ways, I feel like it has driven itself off the tracks and is flying through the air right now as we speak. I know this sounds dramatic – and perhaps like a bad thing – but in actuality, we are watching God take over our lives in ways we never thought possible.

Basically, the past thirteen days have looked like this:

On Tuesday, May 1st, I called a local adoption coordinator who oversees domestic adoptions. My friend wanted me to contact her to learn more about how domestic adoptions are handled. This coordinator goes to a local church and “matches” birth moms with adoptive parents. I spent about 35 minutes on the phone with the coordinator and learned the “ins and outs” of domestic adoptions. It was a very informative conversation. Jeff and I didn’t commit to adopting domestically but decided to keep the info in our back pocket in case we changed our minds in the future.

Thursday, May 3rd, the adoption coordinator called me and said that she had a birth mom that she wanted to show our Adoption Photo Book to on Monday. She thought we might be a good match for this particular birth mom. (Mind you, Jeff and I did not have an adoption book.) For international adoptions, we show about 6 – 8 photos of ourselves and our home. Jeff and I talk about it and decide to go forward with having our book shown to this particular mom.

Friday, May 4th, I scramble and spend 11 hours creating an adoption photo book. I want to say that it was not stressful, but it was. This book is basically a heart-felt letter to birth moms thanking them for giving a family like ours the opportunity to adopt their baby. The book’s pictures are an attempt to show where we live, how we live, that we are decent people. Stressful!

Monday, May 7th, our coordinator was supposed to meet with the birth mom to show her our book. I am on pins and needles all day. Distracted. Anxious. Waiting on God’s timing. Wanting to vomit. I try my darndest to avoid calling our coordinator and asking for an update. I compromise and text her. She responds immediately and says the meeting did not go through with the girl and that it should hopefully later that week.

Tuesday, May 8th, I struggle with waiting. I realize that God is showing me that my patience is lacking. I post this quote on my personal Facebook page which keeps me grounded. “Stand still” – keep the posture of an upright man, ready for action, expecting further orders, cheerfully and patiently awaiting the directing voice; and it will not be long ere God shall say to you, as distinctly as Moses said it to the people of Israel, “Go forward.” Charles Spurgeon

Wednesday, May 9th, Jeff and I hear from the adoption coordinator who wants to show our book to two more birth moms. This is the moment of decision for Jeff and me. Originally, we thought we would have her show our book to just the one mom thinking in our minds that her unborn baby was perfect for us. So this decision is big. We had to decide if we were going forward 100% into the world of domestic adoption. Jeff gives me a wholehearted yes. I’m about 90% in. We give the okay for our book to be shown.

Thursday, May 10th, we get “The call.” Our coordinator had showed our book (along with 4 or 5 other books) to a birth mom and the mom chose us.

So, let me recap our life within the past year: Jeff and I feel compelled to help orphans and decide to adopt a baby from Ethiopia and a baby from Haiti. We will be waiting about 2+ years to bring those kiddos home. We’ve spent about $15,000 on adoption fees thus far and we have at least another $45,000 to go. Then, within a matter of just 10 days, a local birth mother chooses Jeff and me to adopt her baby. This will be another $29,000 and, a third child to add to our home.

It gets better. The birth mom is having a girl and she is due in early August. In fact, she is due less than 3 months from now. So three months from now, Jeff and I may be the proud parents of a baby girl. We were expecting to bring two kiddos home about 2 years from now and all of a sudden we are looking at bringing a newborn home in less than 3 months.
We are feeling excited. We are feeling queasy with nerves over our lives changing in just three months. I am fearful and preparing my heart for the possibility that the birth mom might change her mind at the last minute. We are trying to figure out how we can do this financially because we can’t. We are trusting and relying on God to come through in a huge way as we begin fundraising immediately. We are cancelling plans we already had set in motion. (I had a business trip in NYC scheduled for the first week of August and Jeff had a two month long trip to Ethiopia scheduled for the 3rd week in August.)

It is crazy how within a blink of an eye, God has shown us that He has different plans for our imminent future. His plan for us right now is to work towards bringing home a baby girl from Florida who needs a home and loving parents. We are up to the challenge.

We will begin fundraising in the next 24 hours or so.  I have to say that for the first time, my pride has disappeared and I’m not going to be ashamed to ask for help. In order for us to help this soon-to-be born baby girl, we need help ourselves. Crazy times are ahead and I can’t wait to watch God move mountains.

39 Responses to “Unexpected Curveballs – It’s a Girl”

  1. Mandi

    I am so happy for you! What a shock! Can’t wait to see what fundraising ideas you have and how we can all help!

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    • Liza

      Mandi – such a shock! Fundraising is starting soon and I will keep you posted!

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  2. Dawn Gable

    Adopt Mom here. Did you receive any information on the Birth Mom? You can email me privately if you want.

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    • Liza

      Hi Dawn! I did receive info on the birth mom. I’m not going to post anything though as that is confidential information. As you know, there are no “guarantees” until the baby is born. But already I am so grateful the birth mom has chosen life for her baby :)

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    • Liza

      Thanks Sharon! So awesome to hear you have two grown adopted sons. Crazy to think that will be me someday :)

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  3. Sharon Wisniewski

    Right before Mother’s Day! How exciting and if GOD brings you to this-GOD will bring you thru it………..So look forward to seeing GOD’S hand at work. BTW-I have 2 grown adopted sons………What a story…

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  4. Holly

    Congratulations!
    You are doing an amazing thing! I remember seeing your post on the addictedtosavings asking about these photobooks, I had a feeling it was something to do with your adoption plans. I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and pray for a safe delivery for your new baby girl, and for the birth mom who is making an incredibly brave and selfless act for her child. Holding my daughter for the first time was the single greatest moment of my life and I am excited for you both that you soon get to experience being parents!

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    • Liza

      Holly – great memory! Someone suggested using CVS and I was able to find a CVS about 30 minutes north of me that did same day printing. But you are so right! It had everything to do with adoption plans :) Thank you for your kind words and prayers!

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  5. Connie

    This is sooooo exciting! I am sure everything will work out for you. You both are wonderful people who deserve it. Please keep us posted.

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  6. Nikkie

    Congrats! How special and amazing our the gifts our Father longs to gives us when we let Him take the reigns

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  7. Shannon

    Liza, I have been following your journey on your blog and through my sister, Bree. Congratulations!!!!! Such wonderful news!!! We will keep you in our prayers!

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  8. Cherish

    Liza, We will be praying a lot for your whole journey – as well as this awesome new turn. I know what it is like to ‘suddenly’ have a baby in your house (we had 3 days warning for our 2 babies) so you’ll be in our thoughts. Let me know about fundraisers you are having or if there are things you need. Would love to help in any way I can – from NH. =)

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  9. Natalie Diaz

    Liza,
    My eyes got watery reading the end of your post! Although we have not met I can tell you’re a very nice person with a huge heart (Jeff also)! I wish you the best of luck with this new development and know that just as you help others everyday you will also get the help and support that you need :)

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  10. Samantha

    Congrats! I am an adoptive mom of 2 domestics. You know the roller coaster ride won’t stop for a while, but in the end it’s worth it.

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  11. sissy

    Not sure what adoption agency you are going through, but they should be able to give you information on adoption grants and gifts that may be available to you. There are more than you probably think. Best of luck and may God Bless you and give you peace.

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  12. Jessica

    How exciting!!! There is nothing better then being a mommy!! How exciting that God has called you and husband to become the parents to a beautiful baby girl!!!! You will be in our prayers! Can’t wait to help with the fundraiser!!!!!

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  13. Liz Garland

    Can I ask what I hope is not seen as a rude or insensitive question? Why is domestic adoption so expensive? I really am clueless on this topic so I apologize, but there is no international travel required which would be pricey, I just dont understand why it would cost so much to give a child a home. Maybe more children would be adopted if it were made more affordable. Congrats on your adoption though and I hope you can raise enough funds!!!

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    • Liza

      Not rude at all. I’m thoroughly frustrated by the expense and frankly, don’t have an answer. I do know that if you were to be a foster parent and then adopt your child, there are no expenses (or if there are, they are minimal.)

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      • Stephanie

        It sounds like the international adoption is just as expensive, since you said it cost $15,000 and another $45,000, which equals $60,000 for 2 children or $30,000 for one

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      • CathyV

        They actually PAY YOU to be a foster and adoptive parent. I wouldn’t call it a lucrative business, but it is a huge help for the foster and adoptive parents.

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  14. Mary Rozycki

    Please contact me, I work with a local not for profit adoption agency here in Pasco and can help with some finances . I would love to help you in any way I can . There is $ avail so feel free to get a hold of me!!!

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  15. Kim

    Congratulations. You made me cry with this exciting new development. As a teacher of many students who I know are adopted I want to say a heart-felt thank you to you and your husband for the beautiful things that you are doing for these wonderful children! I am praying for your new developments!<3

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  16. Nana Kay

    Can’t wait to see how God will unfold all the details! Can’t wait to hold my new baby granddaughter!

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  17. Mandy

    I am super excited for you Liza! We are in the final stages in the adoption of our foster child. You truly are a special person who has a generous heart! These blessings (2 children from over seas and 1 domestic) are meant for you and your husband. Keep us updated!

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  18. Dorne

    Congratulations! Ok everyone if we all chip in this we can accomplish the financial goal. Together we can accomplish anything.

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  19. Natasha

    Omg. I am soooo excited for you and Jeff. You will be awsome parents. I cant wait to she her. You are such a wonderful couple.

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  20. Joanne

    We have adopted 3 children… and have a whirlwind of a story… if you ever want to to chat to a mom who has “been there”.. let me know! We found out about our baby – “thought” we had about 4-6 weeks till the due date.. which was gonna be hard to get everything done.. and TWO weeks later, we had her in our arms… God MOVED in miraculous ways to make it all work out.

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    • Jeff

      Wow Joanne! What an awesome story of God’s faithfulness. Truthfully, we are naturally trepidatious, but moving forward trusting in God’s provision. I’m sure Liza and I will need some serious “been there” advice as we move foward. Thanks for the comment and encouragement.

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  21. Erin

    Wow, what awesome news! Congrats & I truly hope everything works out. Such a quick match, surely it was meant to be! I have some amazing friends who are working with an agency in MN to adopt domestically and the wait time, just to get their book shown even, is so, so long. If you don’t mind sharing, would you email me the info of the coordinator who was able to so quickly match you with a birth mom? I’d love to pass her info on to my friends and see if it might help them find their baby sooner. Thank you and good luck!!

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    • Liza

      Hi Erin! Thanks for the congrats :) We are definitely excited and at the same time cautious. This happened super fast. I do know of other couples that have been waiting much longer. Jeff and I were open to any race and gender so that may have sped up our wait time? If you would like to pass this website along to your friends, it hsa the contact info for Sue (owner and Adoption coordinator) as well as the lawyer we are working with. http://www.florida-adoptions.com/ Take care and please keep me posted on your friends’ progress!

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